Tuesday, May 22, 2007

empty nest?

I saw this book at B&N on Monday. And honestly - I was afraid to even pick it up (so I didn't).

I'm afraid my empty nest vision might be far from reality. I'm planning to retire (with 27 years of service) about the time Sara goes to college. So probably a few years away from being real "empty nesters" but close. Two life changes happening at the same time.

As the retirement date gets closer, I start to think more about "life after work"...seriously.

Things I'm looking forward to:

*Grocery shopping on a weekday, before 3:00 pm.

*Not thinking about "can I take this day off?" ... ever again.

*Working out more. Playing tennis. Playing golf. Making dinner.

*Having time to learn new things (photography?, drawing?, french?, cooking?) and time to reflect.

*Getting up in the dark less.

*Getting more life accomplished during the week (instead of just on the weekends)...but lately I've been doing more of this anyway.

*Keeping up with my family and friends (knowing what's going on in their lives, not missing birthdays, planning - and keeping - dates).

...and to be fair, things that scare me (a little):

*Having too much time on my hands (I'm scary when I'm bored).

*Not having anything interesting to say at dinner with Marc, or maybe even when I'm talking with my friends.

*Getting too interested in my kids' lives - must let them go!

*My body - not being able to work out or play tennis or play golf.

*Finding out that the things I'm looking forward to simply don't make me happy... can't imagine that the saying "be careful what you wish for - you might get it" isn't based somewhat in fact.

1 comment:

  1. We women tend to spend a longer length of time preparing our hearts for the empty nest. The truth of this hit home, when a week before our youngest was moving out, my husband said to me in the midst of a television show (totaly unrelated to our conversation)"It just dawned on me that this time next week, we will be empty nesters"! I had to laugh, like "Where have you been? Dah".
    Our nest has been empty now for 3 years, we live across country from our sons and grand-daughter. Life now is nothing how I imagined it to be and far beyond what I had hoped it would be. It was hard at first, but now, we have a new chapter, life does go on, and the lives of our children goes on. I only offer this piece of advise, at whatever cost, maintain a healthy emotional connection with your children (from visiting your blog, it seems that is "preaching to the choir"). Even though miles seperate us, and we had never planned on that.... we stay in contact and I think that has been key for all of us, to continue on this fantastic adventure we call life, together, yet at a distance.:-)
    God Bless Ya,
    Wendy

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