Thursday, October 20, 2016

Making Room.

I shared a very vague post a few months back about making room for new priorities. After more thought and many difficult conversations, including some hard goodbyes, today marked the end of what I now see as a months-long journey to be home on Thursdays.

It started back in May, when I moved my knitting class from Monday nights to Thursdays.

The change was good, like I shared in July:
Beginning last month, I moved my Monday evening class to Thursday evenings. Thankfully, all my students save one were able to make the change and most were just as happy about it as I am. It's nice to be home on Monday evenings - the golf course is closed on Mondays, so if Marc's in town, he's home; and I get to bed at a more reasonable hour, which makes Tuesdays with Charlie easier. So now my Thursdays are a little longer, but that seems to be working ok, since the next day is Friday and then the weekend!
But then I started thinking about how nice it might be if I were simply home. I could cook dinner (??!!) and  I could be the one to turn the porch light on. Once I thought about it for more than a second, it was an easy decision. It was harder to tell my students. But happily many of them have the flexibility to join me on Wednesday afternoons, so I might end up with one VERY full class in the middle of the afternoon in the middle of the week...and that's wonderful!

We had our last Thursday evening class last week. The girls were great - we drank wine and had snacks and talked about knitting and life ... which is what we always do (well, except for the wine). I thought to take another photo in the parking lot as I left. Marking another milestone.

Today's goodbye was, in a sense, harder.  Holly and I have co-hosted the weekly knitting group at the nursing home since 2011. There are now three of us (four, including Holly) co-hosting and the group of "knitters" mostly crochet. Also it's only three to four ladies most weeks, so it doesn't feel like I'm leaving a huge gap. When we (Holly is really the more popular :-) said good bye today the ladies gave us hugs and I promised we'd keep in touch.

It was really nice to get home today before it got dark. I didn't even need to turn on the porch light.

So now my Thursdays are "home days". just in time to welcome a new baby into the family! If all goes well, I'll be having Thursdays with him when Katie goes back to work next February.  Tuesdays with Charlie have been such a blessing I'm not sure how my heart can possibly hold that and another day with his brother. but of course it will. there's plenty of room!

11 comments:

  1. It's all good, Mary. Although change can be off putting sometimes, I always tell myself that if whatever it is doesn't work, you can always make another change. I think your changes will all be great!

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  2. Change can be scary and hard but it sounds like you've worked through this very successfully. I think Thursdays at home will be awesome for you, especially with that new baby to snuggle!

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  3. As difficult as change and goodbyes might be, I can't help but think that what you're saying hello to will be even better. I didn't see my grandparents every week, but they were a big part of my childhood, and I think my relationship with my grandmother and her influence was a big part of who I am today. Thursdays with Charlie's brother will be wonderful!

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  4. I second Bonny's sentiments. I spent so much time with my grandparents - moments I loved then and treasure now incredibly! I am not fortunate to be near my granddaughter and I know I am missing out on so many things. Here is to a new schedule and the joys that change will bring! XO

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  5. Yup - change can be difficult/scary, but it can also be incredibly good or great. Your change sounds like it is going to be wonderful -- enjoy!!

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  6. Change is difficult and scary but soooo important and good for us. And watching my sister-in-law and her relationships with her grandchildren is truly the best thing ever. You are a lucky lady. On another note - I just joined a knitting group at an assisted living facility...average age 90!

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  7. So glad that the new baby will have his own day with Marmie. It'll mean a lot to them both when they are older.

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  8. Our needs in life change and your life is going to have a big change with the new baby! How wonderful you'll have time with the new little one. It takes courage to make a change, even when we know it's the right thing.

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  9. This post and your recent post about Barbara Brown Taylor's book (which I have not read, but now intend to), really resonated with me. Core questions about the sacramental nature of daily life. And about the fact that (as you demonstrate in today's post) we have the ability to make choices about the content of our daily lives. Beautiful and meaningful thoughts. Thank you.

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  10. Well I thought I'd commented last week...this is a great post and lots to ponder. Looking fwd to Tues and Thurs! Soon!
    Cheers~

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  11. Isn't it amazing how the heart grows like that?? <3

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